Dear Eli, I think you would have enjoyed our efforts to remember you on Halloween. We set up a skeleton, with glow sticks and a candy bowl, at your gravesite so people could trick-or-treat there. That evening, we went to trick-or-treat and saw another group there taking pictures and trick-or-treating. We exchanged a few words …
Grief is a constant companion. It is always there. I can be distracted from it. I can ignore it. I can even hide from it, but I can't get rid of it, nor do I want to. Grief reminds me that my son exists. When Eli's biopsy four years ago today came back positive for …
Radiation Eli finished his radiation Wednesday, October 13th. He had some increasing pain in his back, so he had previously been unable to lay down on the table long enough for the radiation. So, I gave him all the pain meds at my disposal (maybe 5 or 6?) and he was able to finish. Eli …
For the longest time, when asked how he was doing, Eli's response was "Same as always". In his mind, this response made perfect sense since he felt generally well and that was the same as he always felt. It bugged him to always be asked the same question by every medical person who rotated in …
Last year, we were still adjusting to the whole cancer thing during Thanksgiving and Christmas. So, I admit, all these holidays bring back memories from last year, starting with Halloween. It seems like I see everything through the lense of pre-cancer and post-cancer diagnosis. The nice thing about this year, is we are back to …
If you know Eli, he is mischievous, playful, and creative. He also likes to tell people what to do. The week after Halloween, at his chemo appointment, he was talking with one of the doctors about trick or treating. The doctor had only been living in her current home for less than a year, so …
Eli The Boss 